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RELATIONSHIP RULES THAT DESTROY RELATIONSHIPS

The following were gathered by World Famous Psychologist, Aaron Beck, Ph.D., a developer of Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy.

1.- If a person has any questions about the relationship, then it means there is something wrong with it. 

2.- If my partner truly loved me, we would not have quarrels.

3.- If my partner really cared, he or she would always feel affection for me.

4.- If my partner gets angry at me or is critical in public, this indicates he or she doesn't really love me. 

5.- My partner should know what is important to me without my having to tell him or her.

6.- If I have to ask for something that I really want, it spoils it.

7.- If my partner really cared, he or she would do what I ask.

8.- A good relationship should not have any problem.

9.- If people really love each other, they should not have to work on their relationship.

10.- If my partner does something that upsets me, I think it is because he or she     deliberately wants to hurt me.

11. - When my partner disagrees with me in public, I think that is a sign that he or she
doesn't care for me very much.      

12. - If my partner contradicts me, I think that he or she doesn't have much respect
         for me. 

13. - If my partner hurts my feelings, I think that it is because he or she is mean. 

14. - My partner always tries to get his or her own way. 

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